In a recent interview with The Awl, adult film star Stoya explained why making such a black-and-white distinction between the real séx and pórn séx worlds sort of misses the point.
When he asked her for her take on the "real séx vs. pórn séx" debate, she said that our collective conception of "normal séx" leaves out a whole lot of séxual preferences that "normal" people have:
Thanks to a combination of the perceived
anonymity on the Internet, and the ability to connect with people all
across the globe -- oh and the search indexes -- it’s pretty obvious now
that this concept of “normal séx," which is two people having séx in a
handful of not really very articulately specified positions, to
completion, and by completion I mean the éjaculation of a man; I
think one of the serious problems with this concept is that it doesn’t
take into account lesbians. Or it doesn’t take into account two people
who have váginas, who like sleeping with women, but who are not
lesbians. Because so on and so forth. It’s this very concrete, narrow
idea of séx -- it’s not the kind of séx that a lot of people are
interested in having. And I’m sure there are people who do like their
séx very, for lack of a better word, vanilla. That’s great and that’s
wonderful, and they like things simple, I guess would be a good way to
describe it? And that’s great for them. But there are also all of these
other people...
Of course, séx in pórnography is performance -- a performance meant
to generate revenue and titillate customers -- so it is inevitably
different from the experiences most people have in their non-commercial
bédrooms. But making swéeping genéralizations about what pórn looks like
and what "real" séx looks like may obscure the many desires and
preferences people have in both worlds.source:Huffington Post
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